The Female Orgasm: Why You Can’t Climax
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The female orgasm can be complex as what works for one woman might not work for another. Here’s what you need to know about achieving that pleasurable peak.
Some women find it easier to achieve, while others take much longer to get there. While no two women’s orgasm experience is alike, it’s no doubt that orgasms feel good. If you’re questioning what the female orgasm feels like and are having trouble climaxing, keep reading to find out how to improve your experience in the bedroom.
Types of Female Orgasms
Each woman’s experience of orgasms can be different, and not all women can experience every type. But they would agree that there’s more than one way to reach a climax.
Experts say there are three kinds of female orgasms:
- Clitoral orgasm: Achieved by stimulation of the clitoris
- Vaginal orgasm: Involves stimulation of the vagina, either through penetration or external stimulation
- G-spot orgasm: Involves stimulation of the sensitive area (or G-spot) located on the front wall of the vagina
Some women can climax using a combination of the above for a more intense experience, while others have difficulty reaching or have never experienced an orgasm. It also takes women a longer time to climax compared to men. So, why is it harder for women?
Why You Can’t Climax
A Journal of Sexual Medicine study reveals that female sexual dysfunction (FSD) is highly prevalent among women globally, with a large proportion of women experiencing multiple sexual dysfunctions. Female sexual dysfunction can include:
- Genito-pelvic pain/penetration disorder: You experience significant pain when having intercourse.
- Female sexual interest/arousal disorder: You’re interested in sex but have difficulty getting aroused during sexual activity.
- Hypoactive sexual desire disorder: You have low sexual desire or interest.
- Female orgasmic disorder (FOD): You’re unable to achieve orgasm.
What TCM says about orgasms and sexual dysfunction
In Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), imbalances in the flow of energy or qi in the body can cause female sexual dysfunction.
The two imbalances of qi that lead to female sexual dysfunction are:
- Liver Qi Stagnation: “The Liver and Kidneys are associated with the reproductive organs. A lack of sexual desire is associated with stress, which can result in Liver
QiStagnation,” says Physician Lim.
- Kidney Deficiency: The Kidneys are also considered the source of sexual energy. “Liver and Kidney
YinDeficiency results in a dry vagina, which causes pain during sexual intercourse and makes it more difficult to orgasm. Women with this body constitution tend to experience night perspiration, thirst, and a short menstrual cycle. Kidney Yang Deficiency may also lead to low sexual desire,” explains Physician Lim.
TCM Remedies to Enhance Orgasms
If you’re experiencing more “mehs” in the bedroom and want more “ooohs”, TCM might be able to help. TCM’s holistic approach to health includes a combination of treatments to enhance sensation and orgasms.
These remedies and treatments are recommended to improve your chances of climaxing. However, consult a licensed TCM physician before trying any herbal remedies. Seek treatment from a professional acupuncturist for your acupuncture session.
There are TCM herbs that you can take to nourish your body and help with achieving orgasms. “Ease Liver qi with
What you eat can make or break your chances of climaxing too. “Cut down on meat and sweets as they can result in Qi Stagnation. Vitamin B complex helps relieve the effects of stress on the body and helps you feel calm. Zinc calms the central nervous system, blackcurrant seed oil helps with hormonal transitions, and magnesium relaxes muscles,” Physician Lim says.
Fruits such as apples, watermelon, and cacao have been linked to enhanced vascular and sexual health, too, so that’s your green light to enjoy more of these.
You want to get your qi circulating to increase your likelihood of climaxing, and gentle exercises like yoga and
This treatment can help move qi, which in turn helps with achieving orgasms. “Moxibustion ‘bakes’ acupoints with burning moxa wool and can be used on
Western medicine recommends the following solutions to help you achieve your sexual peaks:
- Medications like sildenafil (Viagra) or tadalafil (Cialis) may improve sexual function and enhance orgasm in some women. Hormonal therapies, like topical testosterone, can also help with sexual function.
- Pelvic physical therapy helps improve muscle tone and circulation in the pelvic region to enhance sexual function and orgasm.
- Lifestyle changes like reducing stress, improving sleep, exercising regularly, and even undergoing couples therapy may help overall sexual function and satisfaction.
The female orgasm can be complex but satisfying once you achieve it. If you’re finding it difficult to climax, the tips and advice above are worth trying. Before starting a new treatment, consult a healthcare provider or licensed TCM physician to find the best approach for you.
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There have been loads of studies on men for erectile dysfunction. Plus they can get Viagra free under most insurance plans but when it comes to women’s problems with orgasms the almighty DEA has nothing to offer in the way of helping a woman orgasm.
They refuse to acknowledge compounded medications such as progesterone, estrodiol and testosterone therapy. So I have to pay $225.00 a month out of pocket. I’m a senior on disability and this really socks.
I personally feel if a woman has no cancer going back a generation on either side of her family. No issues with cysts or female issues. No female problems period then the DEA should pay for bio identical hormones!
What they’re offering up right now doesn’t work and it’s often inconvenient.
It’s my opinion the dea should pay for bio identical as they continue to seek out other ways a woman can increase her abilities to achieve a stand out orgasm.
I worked in pharmacy for many years. I first began my first job at a mom and pop pharmacy in 1971. Two years before the dea took over!! I am not a fan but I was also compounding meds for women to help her orgasm.
I personally feel the dea has no right to keep orgasms from a woman.
If she sees her gynecologist and is informed of any risks taking bio identical and agrees its right for her then the dea should cover this overly priced combination that helps a woman still feel like a girl in her 20’s. Well, maybe sometimes anyway.
The dea is all top powerful these days and has to loosen up a lot.
Now testosterone is a C2. Really? I must see my gyno twice a year because of this? Ridiculous.
There are far more restrictions the dea has which I won’t get into here.
I’m 70 years old and I’ve been taking bio identical over 25 years and I’ve never had a medical problem due to them. It’s my hope I can take them up and into my 90’s if I so wish.
As a male, I found it interesting that’s Cialis and Viagra can also help women. I had no idea but I guess it increases the circulation in the vaginal area. Article was rather interesting throughout. I’m on a medication called Nortriptyline for migraines but unfortunately it does affect other areas of my life. Did not realize it was an antidepressant and anti-anxiety when I was prescribed it. I found out later by reading up on it. Hard to do much research when you have a migraine headache which is due to Long Covid. It does work well for those migraines but unfortunately it does slow things down in the other department.
I love that we are focussing more on women’s orgasms and how they can reach that elusive peak. Makes all involved part of the solution which has to be a win/win!
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