Premature ejaculation or climaxing too early during sexual intercourse is the bane of existence for many young men. As many as 1 in 3 men complain of this condition at some point in life. Don’t fret if you’re one of them – you can get back to business in bed with the self-help tips and natural remedies in this article.
What is Premature Ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation occurs when a man ejaculates or discharges semen sooner during sexual intercourse than he or his partner would like. Premature ejaculation that arises occasionally is not a concern. You may be diagnosed with premature ejaculation if you:
- nearly always ejaculate within one minute of initiating sex.
- are nearly always unable to delay ejaculation during sex.
- experience distress and frustrations due to the condition and tend to avoid sex as a result.
Psychological or biological factors may cause premature ejaculation. Sexual abuse, poor body image, anxiety and depression, relationship issues, and anxiety due to difficulty maintaining an erection can play a role in this condition.
Biological factors responsible for premature ejaculation include abnormal hormone levels, infection of the prostate or urethra (the tube that carries urine from the bladder to outside the body), and changes in the brain’s functioning. Emotional and mental stress limit your ability to relax and enjoy sex. This condition plays a significant role in premature ejaculation.
Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) attributes premature ejaculation to pathogenic factors in different organs. “The common causatives for premature ejaculation are damp-heat, qi stagnation, blood stasis, deficiencies of the heart, spleen and kidneys. All these collectively arise from our stressful working lifestyle and unhealthy eating habits,” says Senior TCM Physician Brandon Yew from Real Health Medical Clinic in Singapore.
How to Prevent Premature Ejaculation
Traditional Chinese Medicine suggests certain acupressure techniques to prevent premature ejaculation, which you can perform on your own.
As Physician Yew consistently observed in his clinical practice, the causes of PE often differ significantly between men. He thus cautions on the importance of consulting a professional TCM practitioner. This way, you can feel more at ease with customised treatments prescribed based on a thorough assessment of your unique body constitution.
Apply an appropriate amount of pressure to elicit a sore or aching sensation or numbness using your fingers or a blunt object like a massage stick on the following acupoints.
- Taixi (KI3): On the inner side of the foot, in the depression between the tip of the inner ankle bone and Achilles tendon
- Guanyuan (RN4): Along the midline of the lower abdomen, 4-fingers-breadth below the navel
- Qihai (RN6): Along the midline of the lower abdomen, 2-fingers-breadth below the navel
Herbs that can prevent premature ejaculation include Chinese yam, lingzhi, Cordyceps, maca, lotus nut, and fox nut. Other herbs such as pomegranate rind, chicken’s gizzard-membrane, cuttlebone, Cherokee rose fruit, raspberry, macrocarpium fruit, flastem milkvetch seed, sharpleaf galangal fruit, and malaytea scurfpea fruit can help as well.
However, it is important not to self-medicate. Consume herbal remedies only after consultation with a TCM practitioner to guide you on the optimal herb for your body constitution.
How to Prolong Ejaculation?
Before you seek medical help, you may try the following techniques to try and prolong ejaculation.
- Masturbate 1 to 2 hours before having sex.
- Use a thick condom to help decrease sensation and delay ejaculation.
- Take a deep breath when you feel you are coming close to climax.
- Have sex with your partner on top so that she can pull away when you are close to climax.
- Take breaks during intercourse and think of completely different things to distract yourself.
How to Cure Premature Ejaculation?
Certain medicines for treating depression can delay ejaculation as a side effect. However, these need to be taken only under the guidance of a physician and may lead to unwanted side effects.
You may also use anaesthetic creams and sprays containing lidocaine on your penis to make it less sensitive. However, take care to wash it off completely before you penetrate your partner. Wearing a condom can improve the effectiveness of anaesthetic sprays.
Traditional Chinese Medicine practitioners generally assess the body constitution of every patient and suggest an individualised therapy based on it.
“With TCM herbal medication, acupuncture, moxibustion, cupping and tuina (TCM deep tissue or meridian massage), a TCM physician can help you in preventing or managing premature ejaculation. We specifically address the unique body constitution of every individual patient,” explains Physician Yew. “These therapies can be undertaken alongside other medicines and treatments and do not cause side effects when taken under the guidance of a TCM practitioner.”
Premature ejaculation is a problem facing many men due to our increasingly stressful lifestyles, but very few acknowledge and seek help. So, let go of the taboos and seek help from your healthcare provider to bring the joy back into bed!